| Recommended Reading |
| Most if not all of these books can be found by doing a search online at www.amazon.com. |
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| Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction |
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
This is the landmark book introducing and legitimizing sexual behaviors and sexual
fantasies as an addictive disease. Dr. Carnes proposes three levels of sexual
addiction, describes the addiction cycle and its progression, and presents
the faulty core beliefs of the addict and the coaddict and their healthy counterparts. |
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In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual
Behavior |
by Patrick Carnes, David Delmonico, and Elizabeth Griffin.
Applies Carnes' theories to the growing phenomenon of cybersex addiction. |
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| Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict |
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
In this sequel to "Out of the Shadows," Dr. Carnes adds to his original descriptions
of sex addiction describing the stages of the illnesses. He presents here his
Sexual Addiction Screening test, useful to therapists and addicts alike. |
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| A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps |
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
This is the first workbook on the Twelve Steps specifically designed with sex
addicts and coaddicts in mind. It offers comprehensive and practical exercises
for each of the twelve steps for anyone for anyone working a sexual recovery
program. |
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| Don't Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction |
by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.
Based on research involving over 1,000 recovering sex addicts and coaddicts,
this comprehensive work outlines the stages of recovery and presents advice
from the addicts and coaddicts themselves as they work to overcome their compulsive
behavior. Recommended both for counselors and for recovering people. |
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| Untangling the Web |
by Jennifer Schneider and Robert Weiss.
An excellent discussion of cybersex addiction from two experts in sex
addiction. Both trained with Carnes and advocate recovery using 12-step
programs. Practical suggestions for getting control of online sexual
behavior. |
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| Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal |
by Deborah Corley and Jennifer Schneider.
A valuable primer with clear, direct advice about the most effective way to
disclose secrets to your spouse, especially secrets about sexual acting
out. Practical examples and sample disclosure letters. Also discusses
when and how to disclose to other family members, children, employers, and
new romantic partners. |
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| Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men |
by Robert Weiss.
Just published in 2005, finally a discussion of sexual addiction for and
about gay men. Helpful criteria for identifying addictive behavior,
without judgment about homosexuality or "kinky" sexual practices. |
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| Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding
and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Codependents |
by Ralph Earle, Ph.D. and Gregory Crow
This book addresses the needs and concerns of all sexual addicts, regardless
of their sexual orientation, and also of the addict's codependent partner.
The authors explore the causes and symptoms of sex addiction. They also include
a comprehensive and practical approach to recovery for the addict and family. |
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| Sex Addiction: Case Studies and Management |
by Ralph H. Earle, Ph.D. and Marcus R. Earle, Ph.D.
Written for the professional who treats sex addiction, this book describes a
comprehensive treatment program for the addict and family. It is highly recommended
for professionals. |
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| Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and
Power |
by Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
This book is a major contribution to the understanding and healing of sex addiction,
romance addiction, and sexual codependency in women. It is full of wisdom and
insight, shedding light on what happens to women in our society, how they survive
it, and some roads to self-respect. |
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| Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addiction |
by Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D. (ed.).
This edited collection has a wide range of articles from leading writers in the field. In addition to helpful articles about partners responding to discovering their partner is a sex addict, there are chapters about special issues and fears faced by partners: Should I stay or leave? Is my partner a pedophile? Is my partner gay? And there is a chapter by Rob Weiss for gay partners in relationship with a sex addict. |
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| Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal
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by Barbara Steffens, Marsha Means
The authors lay out the case that 12 step programs for partners of sex addicts can be harmful in labeling the partner as a co-addict, or co-dependent, and that the pain that partners experience after discovery of their partner's behavior is best understood as a trauma that can have long lasting effects, especially if the sex addict does not get into recovery.
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| The Secret Sin: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction |
by Mark Laaser, Ph.D.
This book approaches sex addiction and recovery from a Biblical perspective.
Dr. Laaser traces its roots in families and in culture; shows how sex addiction
can poison the lives of pastors and lay people alike; and describes a Twelve
Step program for treatment and recovery. |
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| Not Just Friends, Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity |
by S. Glass and Staeheli
This is a good book for both partners to read. |
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| Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets |
by Claudia Black, Ph.D.
Deceived describes women in a community of healing who claim their worth and power through the support of other women and find a path to garner esteem and personal power to make the choices that allow them dignity. It offers direction, hope and inspiration; women no longer have to live in the shadow of their partner's behavior, they can claim their value and integrity and self respect, and in this process trust themselves to be able to care for themselves and their family. Deceived teaches women how to protectively emerge from emotional isolation, shed secrets and shame, and discover the power to incite positive change in their relationship. |
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| Is It Love or is it Addiction? |
by Brenda Schaeffer
This book helps readers understand love addiction and to sort out the unhealthy,
addictive elements in their romantic relationship. Brenda presents a solid
theory of love addiction and healthy love, with practical examples to illustrate
her concepts. |
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| Back From Betrayal: Recovering From his Affairs |
by Jennifer P. Schneider, M.D., Ph.D.
Dr. Schneider's pioneering work is the first written for women whose husbands
keep getting involved in affairs. Based on interviews and her own experience,
she addresses the anguish and helplessness which codependents feel daily. In
clear, compassionate, and informed writing she describes the nature of sexual
coaddiction, helps coaddicts understand their own disease and their denial
and isolation and outlines a path to recovery. |
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| Many Roads, One Journey : Moving Beyond the Twelve
Steps |
by Charlotte Davis Kasl
From the author of Women, Sex, and Addiction, a timely and controversial second
look at 12-step programs, helping all readers to draw on the steps' underlying
wisdom, adapting them to their own experiences, beliefs, and sources of strength. |
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| Sexual Addiction : An Integrated Approach |
by Aviel Goodman M.D.
Goodman presents an extensively documented and very scholarly examination of
the causes of sexual addiction along with a sampling of treatment approaches,
including his preferred approach. Intended for the well-educated reader. |
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| Craving for Ecstasy :
How Our Passions Become Addictions
and What We Can Do About Them |
by Harvey B. Milkman, Stanley G. Sunderwirth
The authors describe the variety of addictive ways individuals lose control of
their lives while striving for pleasure and escape. The biological, chemical,
sociological, and psychological processes of addiction are explained in understandable
terms. |
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| Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. |
by Pamela Paul.
Written by a journalist, this is a thorough, thoughtful discussion of the
impact of pornography since the advent of the Internet. Well researched
and documented, including results of a 2004 Harris poll she commissioned
and over 100 interviews she did with heterosexual consumers of pornography,
including many cybersex addicts.
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| Treating Addicted Survivors of Trauma |
| by Katie Evans, J. Michael Sullivan |
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| The Sex Addiction Workbook: Proven Strategies to Help You Regain Control of Your Life |
| by Tamara Penix, Ph.D. Sbraga, William T. O'Donohue This is an excellent workbook - it will give you lots of guidance and lots of exercises. |
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Hope and Recovery:
A Twelve-Step Guide for Healing
From Compulsive Sexual Behavior |
| This was one of the first books to comprehensively describe
the application of the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
to sexual addiction and compulsivity. It also includes a wide
range of personal stories in which recovering sexual addicts
share their experience, strength, and hope. |
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| Sex Addiction: Case Studies & Management |
| by Ralph H. Earle, Kevin Osborn, Marcus R. Earle |
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| Relapse Prevention: Maintenance Strategies in the
Treatment of Addictive Behaviors |
| by G. Alan Marlatt, Judith R. Gordon (Editor) |
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Addicted to Adultery :
How We Saved Our Marriage
and How You Can Save Yours |
| by Richard Brzeczek, Elizabeth Brzecaek, Sharon Devita |
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The Pleasure Addicts :
The Addictive Process--Food,
Sex, Drugs, Alcohol, Work, and More |
| by Lawrence J. Hatterer |
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| False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual
Addiction |
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| Beyond Gay or Straight: Understanding Sexual Orientation |
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| Love, Infidelity and Sexual Addiction: A Codependent's Perspective |
| by Christine Adams |
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| Reclaiming Goddess Sexuality, The Power of the Feminine Way |
by Linda Savage, Ph.D.
This is an excellent book for women and men. It is written by a sex therapist with 25 years experience helping women to embrace their sexuality. It does an excellent job describing how sexuality is a sacred power meant to be a transformational power for partners to experience with each other. For men, this is a great book to get some understanding of the deeper spiritual possibilities available in real sexuality as opposed to what is taught in the mainstream in this country. |
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| Attached, The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it can Help You Find - and Keep - Love. |
by A. Levine and R. Heller
This is a great book for people trying to find a good partner (like a dating bible), and for people in a relationship where their partner can't commit. Also good for people who can't commit to read to understand how their attachment issues may be causing the problem. |
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| Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction
(W. W. Norton) |
by Sue William Silverman
This is the first memoir on sexual addiction written from a woman's perspective.
It is structured around 28-days Silverman spent in a rehab facility, with flashbacks
to self-destructive behavior with emotionally dangerous men. During this month,
she overcomes her belief that sex is love, a belief she traces back to her
father's sexual abuse of her as a child. In Elle magazine, Francine Prose writes: "Love
Sick provides an honest and deeply chilling account of what it's like to suffer
from a compulsion to look for love in what are most definitely all the wrong
places." |
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