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Find Your Love

Heart & Arrow

 

A matchmaking service with a.

NO JERKSNO BIMBOS


Women callers on my nationally syndicated radio show kept saying, "How come I never meet a decent man? All I ever meet are jerks! How can I meet a man who is serious about a relationship?"

Men kept saying, "How come the only women I meet measure me by the weight of my wallet or the kind of car I drive? How can I meet a woman who will love me - for me?

If you are serious about meeting that special someone you have come to the right place. First, do this.

MEN:
Take the test -
Are You A Jerk? Come on, do it.

WOMEN:
Take the test -
Are You A Bimbo? Fair is fair.

BOTH MEN & WOMEN:
Read and endorse
The Relationship Pledge and Commitment.

If you pass the test and endorse the pledge
Click the heart!

Heart


 

The Relationship Pledge
Love one another, but make not a bond of love. Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each others cup, but drink not from the same cup. Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each others keeping. For only the hand of life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together. For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and cypress grow not in each others shadow.
Kahlil Gibran

The Commitment

The trials of a committed relationship provide a double blessing. Learning the skills necessary for resolving conflicts develops character and maturity. We are determined to resolve conflicts in an atmosphere of mutual respect, and devotion to the goals of trust and intimacy, believing it will deepen and enrich our relationship. We hereby make this commitment to each other.

We commit to be friends and partners, and remain so.
Friendship can be a peaceful island, separate and apart in a world of turmoil. We reflect upon the serenity of future years shared with a true friend.

We commit to be sharing companions.
Sharing and companionship give lifelong protection against the pain of loneliness.

We commit to intimacy.
The commitment to grow together in intimacy leads to an abiding love fulfilling man's deepest need.

We commit to be lovers.
Lovers comfort each other from the chills of the world providing a source of peace, harmony, and warmth of soul and spirit. Lovers touch each other frequently with affection. The touching of their bodies symbolizes the touching of their hearts.

We commit to be open with each other.
We will not bind ourselves in the self-concealment that causes suspicion and doubt. We will reveal ourselves to each other, even as the budding rose opens to reveal its fragrance and beauty.

We commit to listen to each other...
...and not hear just words, but hear also the non-language of tone, mood, and physical expression. We will learn the art of listening to understand, rather than listening to evaluate.

We commit to be truthful...
...so that we may always trust. When things do not go smoothly, we will try to be patient, gentle, understanding, flexible, and loving with each other.

We commit to mutual support.
We will give each other approval, remembering criticism divides while compliments encourage growth. We will not hasten to point out the other's mistakes, but determine to be responsible for our own.

We commit to mutual respect.
We will respect each other's rights, for each of us is a special person entitled to our own choices and mistakes. We will accept the other, as we would have ourselves accepted. We will adjust to the needs of the other while remaining true to ourselves. We are two individuals who enrich our existence by having a single life, and a shared life.

We commit to fidelity.
We will cherish our union by being faithful, for nothing can be stronger or more important than our love. We will let no one come between us, neither child, family, friend, nor material goods.

Finally,

We commit to love.
We choose to love. We will love one another. Love is our river of life, Our eternal source for recreating ourselves. Above all else; we will love one another. For when we love, God dwells in us.

We have chosen to commit not because we belong to each other,
but because we belong
with each other.

Jerome Murray

If you want this type of relationship go back and click the heart!

Copyright 1990. Jerome Murray, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

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Copyright 1997 Dr. Jerome Murray. All rights reserved

Last modified on Monday, January 27, 2003